There are many different thoughts out there regarding what gay is:
Is there a gay gene? Are you born this way or is it a choice? Is it environmental?
Unfortunately, when you encounter Christians, you may find yourself trying to justify who you are. You may often find yourself backed into a corner as they ask you questions about who you are. They will want to know why you believe being gay is right, or why you don’t believe it’s a choice. Your answers will never fully be grasped for they will never really understand, nor will you fully be at peace during the interrogations as you try to answer their questions. Many Christians believe being gay is a choice and that having those attractions is all about lust. You will encounter many Christians that don’t fully understand and will quote bible verses that condemn gays without a second thought. They will tend to hunker down in their stand against gays, but deny that what they are doing is not love. You may even encounter some Christians that will say that they are sinners too, and they understand that we have all fallen short of the kingdom of God.
I can’t tell you if being gay is a birth gene, or environmental, but I can tell you this: most of us do not choose to be gay – why would anyone raise their hand with pride, as their parents disown them? Why would anyone select a life that might cause their closest friends to abandon them?
Being gay isn’t just a pride parade, it’s also filled with unimaginable pain that is caused by other humans that don’t understand, who jump on the band wagon of hatred towards what is different.
Before I left my old church, I attempted to volunteer for the newly forming gay ministry.. I was interrogated by my women’s group, the administrator of the women’s group, the gay ministry leader and the pastor. Their questions stumped me because I had never thought the same way as them, or even considered some things an option. I remember being drilled on the concept of “repentance” and how gays couldn’t be baptized because repentance is required before an “active” gay can be acknowledged as a child of God. I was asked if I believe that those “reprogramming” institutes can help gay people overcome their tendencies and their attractions. My answers failed to change their mentality during those interrogations.
When in those situations, I believe it’s not our job to change the church, or Christians. Our job is to love them despite their lack of understanding what love really is.
I heard a sermon once that talked about how Christians should earn the right to speak into someone’s life before telling them something is a sin. The pastor spoke on how once you earn the right, that questions must be asked with sensitivity. I believe that though I knew those who interrogated me, questions spoke with hidden motives should never be asked.
Some questions: What is the difference between an “active” gay and a “non-active” gay, or are you gay only if you are having sex with the same gender? Can an awakened gay be baptized regardless of whether or not he/she is in a relationship? Can a “reprogramming” benefit a gay
I believe the difference between “active” and “non-active” is determined by the gay person. Many believe active gay is one who has a same sex partner. However, I believe that type of recognition “active” or “non-active” is dated. In a time where people only classified you as gay if you were having sex with the same gender. Now days, we have LGBT recognition and the thought that its possible that LGBTs are born that way, thus its apart of who they are. The idea that people choose to be gay is going away as we dig more graves.
Being baptized is an act of faith in the Christian church. Not all churches have baptisms, instead they do sprinkling and confirmation. Some churches have you do the sinners prayer to be saved. To assume that someone having sex outside of marriage, cannot be saved without immersion in water is not a call humans can make.
I believe reprogramming institutes for LGBT are not healthy. To teach someone to stuff the desires they feel inside, is dangerous. When I think of reprogramming, I think of brainwashing.
I don’t know where you are at in your journey; I don’t know how hard it’s been to identify yourself as part of the LGBT community. But I do know this, our stories are so similar, our pain is shared with others in similar situations. We ARE NOT alone.
(p.s don’t tell my editor that I changed things and posted without it being reread…. 🙂 Hopefully its understandable and no brains exploded during the attempt to understand my thoughts.)